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Publisher's Note: Welcome to the Department of Meditation, where you are treated to the ageless wisdom and inimitable wit of our very own meditation guru, Constance Wilkinson, psychotherapist and card-carrying Buddhist.
Constance welcomes your feedback and questions about meditation at email@example.com
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Passion, You Say?
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Constance Wilkinson, LMHC, MFA
How does this occur? Imagine a glass bottle filled with clear, pure water. Imagine dumping two handfuls of dirt into the bottle. Cork the bottle. Now, shake that bottle up. Keep shaking it until the glass bottle becomes a bottle of muddy water and don't stop shaking it. Is the muddy water clear? Of course not. Keep shaking. It's not clear at all; it's just the opposite: it's muddy.
What can you do to increase its clarity?
You can stop shaking the bottle.
Stop shaking the bottle; the dirt settles down and the water is clear again.
It's quite the same with mind. More agitation = less clarity.
Simple sitting meditation, as we've described, is like putting the muddy water bottle down. Put mind down; let it settle. Just let it settle by itself.
Having done that, you might next act in a way to expand your view.
You might take a stroll on the beach, enjoying a literally widened horizon.
You might sit out in your garden to bask and enjoy the sun.
You might lie down in a comfortable open space looking up and looking into the sky. Just noticing. Not doing anything. Just noticing.
Having let mind settle naturally creates an open space of clarity. Within this clarity and openness inspirations may naturally arise. Adding an aspect of physical openness and comfortable relaxation - using the sky, the beach horizon, the lush garden as support - can deepen your experience.
Ask your heart to let you know what it wants and what it needs. Ask it to reveal the secret to following your bliss. Your bliss, not anyone else's. Your passion, the real passion, not something imposed upon you nor something you're imposing upon yourself.
The Herring Run in Brewster
Take time to slow down.
People on the Cape are very lucky in this regard: we have access to so many open spaces. Bay beaches, beaches on the sound, beaches on the Atlantic; lakes and ponds and streams.
Go to Nauset and spend an hour synching with the sound of the waves. Go to the old mill in Brewster and spend ten minutes at the herring run listening to the rushing of the run's small waterfalls. Warming sun, spacious sky, moving wind, waves of water - letting mind just settle down a bit, naturally relax and then expand.
In this clarity, you can search and find your passion. Having found it, you can pursue your bliss. Why would you want not to? What would be the point?
Photograph by Nicola Burnell
Constance Wilkinson, LMHC, MFA is a licensed psychotherapist who uses a mindfulness-based, solution-focused approach to help reduce symptoms of dysregulation, as well as to develop clients' personal goals and strategies to achieve them. She is trained in EMDR, clinical hypnosis, EFT, and expressive arts.
She has an MFA from Sarah Lawrence College in creative writing and an MA in clinical mental health counseling psychology from Lesley University. Since 1978, Ms Wilkinson has been practicing meditation and studying with distinguished Tibetan Buddhist refugee teachers in the United States, India, Nepal, and Tibet.
Constance Wilkinson can be reached at 508-648-8105
Or by email: firstname.lastname@example.org